Growing up, I was told that I was smart – that I was beautiful – that I could accomplish anything! My parents encouraged me and said ‘all the right things’. In short – I had a positive childhood. So I ask myself… where did my thinking derail? When did I start doubting all of the things I was told as a child? When did my parent’s words lose their root system in my mind?
I’ll tell you when – It was when I started letting the world have a say in how I think of myself. God loves unconditionally. Now, He may not love a certain behavior or situation, but He loves YOU! If God Almighty – the Creator of the heavens and earth – can love us when we aren’t our best, then why can’t we love ourselves at those times too? Why do we feel we need to be perfect to be loved?
WE WILL NEVER BE PERFECT!
I swear I tell myself this on a daily basis. Now, it’s not like I don’t believe all those things I was told as a child; I don’t think they lied to me. When I tell my kiddos those things, they say that I have to say that because I’m the Mom. Umm…no, I do not! We tell our loved ones these things because we love them unconditionally and want to encourage and show that love. So, why don’t we do the same thing for ourselves?
We have all heard you cannot love someone if you do not love yourself. Does that mean we can love even greater if we learn to really love ourselves? I am about…100% certain this what has caused me to stop my journey (several times) to the best life available. This may be the biggest stumbling block in my walk. Detours are okay; in fact, they make our journeys that much more exciting and enjoyable, but it’s when we hit roadblocks that we limit ourselves. We either need to work through the roadblock or DETOUR.
God can work in us to figure out those roadblocks and not allow them to stop us, but we need to do the work. We need to WANT to keep moving forward. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve stopped because of a roadblock. When I sat down and said, “I quit!”
>>insert mind picture of me sitting criss-cross applesauce, arms folded, and a pouty look on my face<<
No one is going to do the work for us. We need to decide to love ourselves unconditionally: Bottom line
to love without compulsion and to enjoy who we are and know that God made us perfect in Christ. Some of us have physical bodies that need a lot of work (I don’t even want to think about all the work I need), but spiritually, we are perfect in Him. When we have an understanding of that, nothing can stop us; we just need to believe it and do the work. I will not lie to you – this is not going to be easy, BUT it will be exciting!
Me? I want to love bigger and more freely. I know that is going to take loving myself unconditionally: with all of my flaws, insecurities, and doubts. I am definitely a work in progress, not perfect, but perfectly imperfect.
PC for top photo: @thesinnersoldier (Instagram)